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Managing Expectations
In business, it's key to manage client expectations.
When I am supporting a family with unpacking from a move, I need to be realistic with how long unpacking is going to take.
If I am supporting a coaching client with learning and implementing a new habit, I need to be sure they understand that forming the new habits takes a LOT of repetitions.
If I am supporting a student in learning new study skills, I need to reiterate how learning new skills is hard and takes time; they need to be kind to themselves and be willing to go outside their comfort zone.
Getting Started
Do you know where it's equally important to manage expectations?
YOURSELF
If you feel like a failure because you set your expectations too high, you may not continue to push yourself.
When planning a new project or implementing a new skill, start with you. What is a reasonable expectation for the amount of time you can commit to the project in the beginning? If this is a new business venture, what goals do you have in 30, 60 and 90 days that you want to attain? What do you actually need to attain?
How we feel about our effort and performance will drive or kill motivation.
Life is about the long game. Life is about overcoming obstacles.
Be kind to yourself, set reasonable expectations and reach for the stars!
“Life is harder when you expect a lot of the world and little of yourself. Life is easier when you expect a lot of yourself and little of the world. High standards, low expectations."
- James Clear
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A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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Work Ethic is a Skill
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I love my work with students. I have the opportunity to support them in growing into their bright futures.
The more I learn about how to best support students, the more I understand how "character traits" are often actually skills that can be taught and learned.
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines work ethic as, "a belief in work as a moral good: a set of values centered on the importance of doing work and reflected especially in a desire or determination to work hard."
This definition describes work ethic as a moral choice.
Getting Started
What I have learned and experienced with the clients that I have worked with is that work ethic, in practice, is a skill that can be learned.
In fact, I would break it down into three separate skills.
In developing your work ethic, you would need to grow the following skills:
Task Initiation
Sustained Attention
Goal Directed Perseverance
If you have described your partner, your kids or yourself as lazy, I challenge you to reframe it.
Most likely one, two or three of the above skills are not fully developed.
We learn skills everyday. Even hard skills.
Work at one skill at a time. Work on it for short spurts, but most days.
Keep it simple and consistent.
Work ethic is not something you are born with. It's a skill you and your kids can learn.
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A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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How Steve Jobs Defined Focus
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How Steve Job Defines' Focus
When thinking about productivity, the focus (no pun intended) is usually on prioritization and spending time on what matters most.
There are a million techniques, tips, and tricks.
Have you tried the Pomodoro method?
Have you purchased the newest planner or app?
How's Time Blocking working for you?
I am all for new methods, tips, and tricks. However, I think we often lose sight of the forest for the prettiest new tree.
"People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things we have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things."
- Steve Jobs
Getting Started
What I love most about Steve Jobs’ quote is how simple it is and yet how it highlights what is most difficult about true productivity.
You have to let go or at least put on the back burner many good ideas and valuable efforts in order to achieve what is most important and what really matters.
What good ideas are you willing to let go of in order to achieve greatness?
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If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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The Cost of Negativity
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The True Cost of Negativity
One of the best parts of owning your own business is you have the privilege to choose who you work with.
You can choose to work with people who are supportive, respectful, and who choose a win-win attitude.
You can choose to earn revenue and enjoy the journey.
You can also choose to say enough is enough and move on with a client or an employee that better aligns with your values and brand.
Getting Started
I understand how hard it is to turn away clients. Or, often worse, to let go of an employee who is good at what they do, but no one wants to be around.
Sometimes this is straightforward. If a client is keeping you up at night, they likely aren't a good fit. If you dread seeing an employee when you walk into the office in the morning, you probably know it's not the right fit.
However, sometimes it's less obvious.
Have you ever had a client let you know they no longer needed your services and then you realized how much unnecessary stress their business caused?
Have you ever had an employee quit and then realized how much happier you were picking up the responsibilities they left behind?
We often underestimate the cost of negativity.
Negativity is unmotivating.
Negativity changes the atmosphere.
Negativity reduces creativity.
Are there people in your personal and work life that you don't look forward to seeing, spending time with, and working with?
How much is this costing you?
How would you feel if they were no longer in your life?
Would you benefit from being more proactive about who you spend your time with and energy on?
I know I would!
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If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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New Beginnings
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We are quickly coming to the end of the first quarter of 2024. I’m not sure if you agree, but for me, that time went very quickly, As a society, we focus a lot on the end of the year, and resolutions for the coming year. Today, I challenge you to look at 2023 and the first few months of 2024: what's not working? Is now the time to jump-start those new habits, routines, and systems?
Getting Started
This week, take 20 minutes to review your calendar.
What activities bring you joy? -- Make a list
What activities support your growth? -- Make a list
What activities build connection? -- Make a list
What activities fill your glass -- Make a list
Write down a plan for how you are going to make these activities a routine part of your life.
What activities cause you stress? -- Make a list
What activities are time sucks? -- Make a list
What activities make you feel bad about yourself? -- Make a list
What activities empty your glass? -- Make a list
Write down a plan for how you are going to limit or eliminate these activities.
Happy Planning!
Ready to Get Started?
If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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Is Your Curiosity a Driver or a Distraction?
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Is your Curiosity a Driver or a Distraction?
How do you think about curiosity?
Curiosity is key to driving new ideas, learning new information, and feeling motivated.
My curiosity about productivity and growth is what makes this blog fun. I have an excuse to discover new ideas, systems, and methods, which I then share with you.
Being curious as a student drives interest in the subject matter.
Being curious as an employee drives job motivation and satisfaction.
So when does curiosity shift from a driver of success and growth to a distraction and road block?
Getting Started
Curiosity is a great driver to obtain new knowledge. However, you may want to ask yourself what you plan to do with that knowledge.
If you are researching the Kardashians as a form of entertainment in your free time, research away.
However, if you have spent the last month at work researching the best system for your new initiative, but haven't implemented any of your research, it's likely your curiosity has transitioned into a distraction.
Is your time spent on research taking away from time spent on other equally or more important tasks?
Keep your curiosity. It's what makes life worth living.
However, be mindful not to get so lost in it, that you lose the meaning of all the amazing information you glean!
Let's be honest, curiosity may be the most fun form of procrastination.......until it's not.
Ready to Get Started?
If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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Give Each Day of the Week a Theme
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Give Each Day of the Week a Theme
I firmly believe that setting priorities is at the core of living a meaningful life. By setting and holding to boundaries and priorities, we give ourselves the freedom to live a full life.
One FUN way to SET PRIORITES is to give each day of the week a theme.
Getting Started
Before you can decide on your themes, you need to identify your priorities.
Take a few moments to write down your priorities.
Below are some ideas:
Priority: Being Financially Responsible
Goal - Build an 8 month emergency fund
Goal - Save 10% a year for retirement
Goal - Setup a Roth IRA and contribute the annual maximum
Goal - Pay off all credit card debt
Goal - Pay off student loan
Priority: Be Healthy
Goal - Do weight workout 1x a week
Goal - Walk outside 3x a week
Goal - Eat less sugar
Goal - Eat whole foods
Goal - Be in bed by 10:00pm
Priority: Be Creative
Goal - Write for 20 minutes 1x per week
Goal - Sign up for a ceramic class
Goal - Take guitar lessons
Goal - Sign up for a improv class
Goal - Try out for a play/musical
Priority: Grow and Learn
Goal - Attend an educational conference
Goal - Take a college coarse
Goal - Listen/Read books
Goal - Hire a coach
Goal - Join a mastermind
Priority: Build Connections
Goal - Prioritize phone calls with friends and family
Goal - Schedule Date Night 1x per week
Goal - Join a book club
Goal - Join an adult sports league
Goal - Volunteer
Once you have your priories, have some fun giving each day of week a theme.
Below are some theme ideas:
Money Monday
Financial Fun Day
Strength Day
Cooking Funday
Sing-a-long Sunday
Author Wednesday
Back to School Day
Fun Fridays
Whimsical Wednesday
Date Night
I think it's amazing to have creative themes, but it's likely just as effective to use straightforward themes.
Below are a few of the themes I currently use:
Mondays - Finance Day, Laundry Day (read more about how liberating a laundry schedule can be here)
Tuesdays - Write Blog Day, Weekly Planning Day, Strength Day
Thursday - Project Day
Friday - Reading Day
Weekends - Outdoor Hike, Family & Friend Brunch
Once you have your themes, add them as an "All Day" Appointment on your calendar.
Keep in mind, while themes are great reminders of your priorities, your THEMES will need corresponding PROJECTS and NEXT ACTIONS, for you to reach your goals.
If this strategy works for you, you may want to also consider giving each month a theme!
If you have some fun theme, we would love to hear them!
Ready to Get Started?
If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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I Can Do Hard Things
I find that this is a lesson that I keep learning over and over again
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When Something is Hard, Find a Way to Do It Every Day
I find that this is a lesson that I keep learning over and over again as a new parent.
I have mentioned this before, but last year I became a foster mom to TWO fourth grade girls.
One of the girls hates to shower. I used to make exceptions, because after all, they are only fourth graders and what's the big deal if they don't take a shower every once in a while.
Yet, every time I tried to be nice and make an exemption, I would get pushback on showering for the next five nights.
Now, we shower every night and it's pretty much a non-issue.
We also do a lot of activities in our house to help improve communication.
One activity is that the girls write in a feelings journal. As you probably already guessed, this was a non-starter when we tried to use it as a tool when they were having a hard day. Now, the girls write in their feelings journal five out of seven days a week. It's a normal part of their routine and also allows for days where life happens. And, when they are having a hard time, there is time set aside to write about it.
While this is a great parenting lesson, it's just as effective for all of us.
Getting Started
Make a list of the things you find hard. This can be anything from paying bills and budgeting to fitting in a walk, grocery shopping, or hey, even showering!
For me, I can get in a rut about reaching out and scheduling conversations with people to connect. This can be both personal - I’m one of nine kids! - or professionally. Then, I make a point to reach out to one person every day.
I have a habit of pushing off admin and marketing tasks for Happy Spaces. Which is why I do my best to work on an admin or marketing task each day. Even if it's a 10 minutes task.
One of the easiest ways to make sure these tasks are done is to simply schedule it. Adding these reminders to your calendar is the equivalent to making a meeting with yourself. You wouldn’t be late or blow off a meeting with your supervisor, so don’t do it to yourself either.
What part of your work day do you find the most challenging?
How can you work on what's challenging for you for a few minutes every day?
Let us know if you try this strategy and how it works for you.
Happy Planning!
Ready to Get Started?
If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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Give it Time!
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Give it Time!
How often have you tried something new and then decided:
It's just too hard.
It's not working.
I don't like it.
It's not for me.
We forget how long it takes to feel comfortable with a new routine, a new system or a new skill.
It almost always takes longer than we expect.
It's ok to try things and then determine it's not right.
It's equally important to give something new a real chance.
Only you know how long that will take.
Getting Started
If you decide to learn how to play the guitar and are only taking lessons once a week, it realistically may take six months to make an enlightened decision.
If you are changing the format of your one-on-one meetings with employees, how many meetings do you need to both see and feel the impact of the changes.
If you decide to shift your work schedule, how long do you need to stick to it in order to know the true benefits and draw backs.
The girls recently started gymnastic on Saturdays. While there has been a lot excitement around it, there has also been some nerves. One of them has asked a few times is she can quit. Every week they go, and at the end of the class they both say how much fun they had.
Last week, after about three months of attending gymnastics on a weekly basis, they seemed to simply enjoy it. No nerves, just fun.
This was made me think about how long it often takes to feel comfortable with something new.
If it took three months to feel comfortable doing something new that the were excited about, how long would you expect it to take to feel comfortable doing something new that is hard.
In life, the achievements we often feel most proud of, are also hard!
Give yourself a REAL chance to succeed at something new!
Ready to Get Started?
If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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50% is Better than Nothing
A little goes a long way.
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Fifty Percent is a LOT better than Zero Percent
Last week, we discussed tomorrow and how tomorrow often turns into someday. I shared that sometimes the only way tomorrow to happen is to just do it. For me and many of the clients I work with, starting is hard because what if I don’t give it my all, or see results, or finish how I want to?
I had this conversation a lot this past semester with the students I work with. I tried to explain that getting a 50% is a lot better than getting a 0%.
The students will start the homework, but not turn it in because they didn't finish it.
Not to worry. They will finish it this week and then submit it.
But this week, there is new homework. The student never gets around to finishing the prior week's homework. Their homework just became a someday - or in many cases - a never project.
And by not submitting the homework, the student gets no credit, despite the homework being partially completed.
Getting Started
I realized how relevant this scenario is in so many situations.
We don't complete our Estate Docs because we are uncertain about one aspect of the Estate Planning.
However, it’s better to have some plan for your estate than no plan at all, right? Wouldn't it be better to complete the Estate Docs based on what we know and have decided? Then we can update them when we are clear on what we are unsure of.
We don't open a Roth IRA because we are not sure of where or how to best invest our money.
Wouldn't it be best open a Roth IRA and contribute the annual maximum into an S&P 500 Index Fund, until we have a clearer idea of how to invest our money? Guess what? Not investing means zero dollars. Investing in something means we’re ahead of the game, no matter where we decide to go next.
We don't make the doctors appointment, because we don't know the best doctor.
Wouldn't it be better to choose a doctor that someone recommends and then switch doctors in the future if you find someone better?
As Sheryl Sandberg said, "Done is better than perfect.
50% completed is a lot more than 0%.
50% is a great start to keep building on in the future!
Is there a project that you could easily finish at 50%?
How would you feel in a year if you completed this today?
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A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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Tomorrow...It's Only a Day Away
Why are we waiting until tomorrow?
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Tomorrow is only a day away, right?
I will start eating healthy tomorrow.
I will start exercising tomorrow.
I will start meditating tomorrow.
Getting Started
I am willing to admit that I am SO guilty of the tomorrow statements. I know the right decision is to start (or start again) now, today, right this minute, but the easier decision is to start tomorrow.
I also know, even though I have the best intentions, that I am NOT to be trusted. Tomorrow means someday. Someday I will make the healthy choice and get back into the habit and routine.
What is interesting is that while I am SO guilty of this with my health, I rarely struggle with this when related to productivity and work.
Of course, there are times I push off projects until tomorrow. However, even when I do that, I check the remaining days of the week, in case I can't follow through on tomorrow. I need to know the backup plan because I do PLAN on starting.
We may all have different areas of our lives where we procrastinate on what we know is best for who we want to be.
The answer is simple, yet so hard.
So, how to get started you ask? Be like Nike - just do it.
How can you start today, right now?
When can you trust yourself that tomorrow means tomorrow and not someday?
Who can help you hold yourself accountable?
Pick a day on the calendar, circle it, plan your calendar accordingly, and perhaps find an accountability buddy that you can check in with.
"It is not too late to do what you want to do — if you stop waiting for the time to be right." - James Clear
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A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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Are You Making the Most of Your Benefits?
Do you know what benefits you’re entitled to?
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Are You Making the Most of Your Benefits?
As we welcome in 2024, let's take a moment to review what benefits we are eligible for.
It’s easy to forget eligible benefits because it’s not something we necessarily see everyday. However, as you consider what’s important to you in 2024, these unseen benefits can truly be important to your overall growth - and even wealth!
Getting Started
Start with your human resources department or the equivalent person for your company. They will likely have a benefits sheet they present to new employees and update as benefit offerings change.
Below are some examples of benefits you may be eligible for and want to take advantage of:
401K, 403B, or an equivalent: is there a minimum you need to contribute, to get the company match? If yes, make sure you are contributing the minimum. The match is free money!
Does your company's 401K offer a Roth option? If yes, this will give you the option to contribute money after taxes and therefore never pay taxes on the earnings.
Keep in mind that there is an annual maximum contribution for your company’s 401K. Many companies offer a free consultation with the financial company that holds the 401K. They can help you estimate how much you will have in retirement, based on your current contribution amount. Is the amount you are contributing supporting your retirement goals?
Does your health insurance plan allow you to open an HSA account? Keep in mind that HSA accounts have an annual maximum contribution, often much lower than your yearly deductible. Is the amount you are contributing to your HSA account meeting your potential health-related expenses?
Does your company offer an Employee Assistance Program? What benefits are included? You may be eligible to meet with a lawyer for free to execute your estate documents or a handful of free sessions with a therapist.
Does your company or health insurance plan offer reimbursement for your gym membership or a discount?
Do you have a Roth IRA? Are you contributing the maximum?
We hope you make the most of your benefits in 2024!
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If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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New Year, New Vision
New Year, New Vision!
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Create a Vision Board
As each year comes to a close, like many people, I tend to reflect on the prior 365. What was wonderful? What was challenging? What do I want to let go of and what do I want to do more of?
Creating a Vision Board is a fun, visual way to keep front and center what's important to you. The best part? The whole family can get involved!
Getting Started
What you will need:
Poster board
Glue stick
Scissors
A few magazines that have words and images that you relate to.
I recommend doing this with a friend or your family - your people! - it’s a fun activity that everyone can enjoy doing and benefit from.
Schedule an hour to make your Vision Board. Put it on the calendar!
Take some time to flip through the magazines. Look for images and words that represent the identities you are focusing on.
Below are a few ideas!
If you are focusing on health, you may want to cut out an image of a fridge full of healthy food, someone doing yoga, or the word "Health".
If you are focusing on personal growth, you may want to cut out an image of someone reading, pictures of books, or the word "Growth".
If you are focusing on spending more quality time with your family, you may want to cut out an image of a family spending time together, an activity you want to do with your family, or the words "Focus", "On", and "Family".
If you are focusing on time blocking and prioritizing your important projects over all the tasks that continuously pop up, you may want to cut out an image of a checklist, a project that is important to you, or the words, "Prioritize," "What", "Is", and "Important"
Once you have cutouts of multiple images and words, arrange them on your poster board.
Don’t forget to take a moment to reflect:
Do you feel like it represents your WHY?
Do you need to add any images or words?
Once you have everything arranged the way you like it, glue down all your cutouts.
Happy Spaces Tips & Tricks
Displaying your Vision Board is an important part of the process.
Think about where you could display your Vision Board so that you see it on a daily basis.
Is there a spot in the kitchen that is visible to you when you are making your morning coffee or doing the dishes?
Is there a spot in your bedroom, where you would see it when you are getting ready in the morning?
If you’re comfortable, take a picture of your vision board and tag @happyspacesbysarah on Instagram. We’d love to see what you’ve come up with!
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A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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It's Time to Review Your Finances!
Break out your budget!
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Make Reviewing Your Finances Routine
There’s nothing glamorous about reviewing your family’s finances, but it’s a necessity that sets us up for success in the future. A family budget and setting up your accounts to automatically save first is a true gift to your future self.
Having a family budget and savings are truly the plan and guidepost for your financial roadmap. The key is setting time aside to evaluate what's working, what's not, and what changes you need to make.
In life, there are busy seasons and slower seasons. While it's important to make the time to review your finances, it doesn't have to be all or nothing.
There are many different strategies for how to review your finances and how to make them a consistent part of your routine.
Getting Started
A few things to consider as you get started:
Do you prefer to spend small blocks of time on your finances or larger blocks of time?
Is it easier for you to evaluate your expenses for a few minutes a day, 20 minutes a week, or an hour a month?
What can you do to make this more fun? Can you pair it with a treat afterward? Can you do this with your partner or a friend on Zoom?
What to look at while doing your financial review:
On a monthly basis, you should know:
Your total income
Your total expense
Your Savings by Category & Your Savings Progress towards your goals
You can pretty quickly enter these numbers into Excel, in order to evaluate both how you did this month and how you are doing over time.
A few thoughts on income:
If you are paid weekly or bi-weekly, you will have a few extra paychecks a year. When reviewing your finances, look ahead to plan for this and decide where you want to allocate the “extra”.
It's important to account for gift money and decide how you want to spend it. This will make it more meaningful and memorable.
A few thoughts on expenses:
Depending on your financial situation, you can decide how carefully you need to track your expenses.
If you are earning more than you are spending, on average, you can do a quicker review.
If your monthly budget is tight, you are going to want to take a closer look and know where your hard-earned money is being allocated.
One option for separating out NEEDS verse WANTS is to have two credit cards. Use one credit card for all your NEEDS, such as food, gas, toiletries, car repairs, and home maintenance. Use the other credit card for WANTS. It's not going to be perfect, but it will give you an idea of how much of your expenses were WANTS verse NEEDS.
Pro tip: You should only use credit cards if you are paying them off monthly. If this is a struggle for you, I don't recommend this strategy.
Whether you put your expenses on a credit card and pay the balance each month or use the cash system, I do recommend taking the time to review your individual expenses each month. Pro tip: If you use cash, literally write down what you’ve spent and review it after a few days. You may learn having cash at hand is easier for you to spend, rather than using your card. $5 here and $10 there a week adds to hundreds of dollars quickly.
If you make your purchases on a credit card or debit card, you can simply sit down and review the statement.
For each expense, ask yourself:
Was this purchase worth it?
Would I buy this again?
If you regret your purchase decision, what strategies could I use to make a different decision next time?
Are there any reoccurring expenses that I can cancel?
Are there any purchases that I have not opened or used that can be returned? Even if it's over 30 days, you can likely get a store credit. You can always repurchase it when you are ready to use it.
As someone who is self-employed, it's important to see the big picture. By understanding your patterns of income and expenses, you can make better decisions. Your finances don't need to feel like such a roller coaster.
We would love to hear about your strategies for reviewing and understanding your finances, your financial habits, and how you make better decisions.
This is a journey, not a destination!
Happy Spaces Tips & Tricks
Keep in mind, the strategies above are all about looking backward. While there is great value in learning about yourself and your decision-making, this might not be enough to change your financial habits.
When creating a budget, you designated a specific amount for each category. You may need to determine your future spending based on how much money you have left in each budgeted category. For example, if you budgeted $600 per month for food, but have only spent $540 this month, what do you plan to do with the extra $60? You could use it towards next month’’s food budget because you know you’re hosting a party or put it into a different savings or expense category.
Take the time to look up all your Amazon purchases. If you find that you are purchasing items you regret, a great option is to add items you want to your cart, but not check out for at least 24 hours. If you are not sure you want something, you can always click to "save the product for later" and have easy future access.
For purchases where you are buying multiple items at one store, I recommend saving the receipt until you review the statement. When you see that $279 Target purchase, pull out the receipt and take a few seconds to evaluate each item.
You could also add your spending each day to a spreadsheet, so that you can see, by category, how much you have left for the week or month. This is a helpful short-term strategy, but is a lot to maintain over time.
An app that you may want to look into, that supports this forward-looking strategy is YNAB. You can link your bank accounts and credit cards so that your income and expenses flow in. Then you assign your earned income and your expense to each budgeted category. This allows you to evaluate, in real-time, your income and expense.
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A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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Buy the Experience, Not the Thing
We live in a world where we are inundated with the message that we need the newest gadgets, the latest clothing trends, and the chicest home décor.
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Author’s Note: While this blog was originally written in December 2022, it was, and remains, one of the most popular. As we immerse ourselves in the holiday season, I would like to encourage you to think about what memories you can make this year, rather than what latest gadget to buy.
Prioritize Spending Money On Experiences Over Things
We live in a world where we are inundated with the message that we need the newest gadgets, the latest clothing trends, and the chicest home decor.
When we research an item online, we kick-start future advertisements for those items, potentially 100s of times, over the next few weeks. It's amazing how something you didn't care much about becomes so much more appealing after you have seen repeated advertisements for it. Marketers are good at their jobs!
Sometimes I have to laugh at the algorithm and how wrong the ads go.
Last month I googled the word "crochet", so I could spell it correctly on a label in a client's apartment. The next day, I started getting advertisements for classes on learning how to crochet. Good effort, though!
It turns out people don't actually care about the car you drive, how fancy your house is, or the brand of clothing you wear. I read a great example (I can't remember where I read it) about the thought process that is actually taking place when we notice something that someone else has and we want. When you see someone driving a car you aspire to own, your thought process is to imagine how cool you would be if you were driving that car, not how cool they are for owning that car. Keeping this in mind has helped me better value my purchase decisions.
With so much focus and attention on our stuff, what we have, and what we want, it's easy to forget that the research continues to show that we find more value in our experiences, not our things.
“Research from San Francisco State University found that people who spent money on experiences rather than material items were happier and felt that the money was better spent." - Forbes
Getting Started
How can we make this shift?
Step 1:
Think about what experiences add value to your life and your children's lives. Make a list of at least 10 experiences, big and small, that matter to you.
Below are some ideas:
Going to the movies
Going to museums
Taking a writing class
Painting / Pottery / Art
Playing an instrument
Trying new restaurants
Eating at your favorite restaurant
Hosting dinner with friends
Weekend Getaway
Visiting an out-of-town friend
Going abroad
Step 2:
Create a wish list of things (i.e. presents) you want. At the bottom of this list, have your list of experiences that matter to you.
Create an additional list for each of your kids.
You may also want to do this for anyone you routinely buy presents for. You will need to ask them what experiences they value. Bonus: this is a great opportunity to connect and learn more about them.
Step 3:
Before buying anything new for yourself that is a "want", I recommend adding it to your "presents" list for at least 24 hours. If it's a large ticket item, you may want to wait a week before making the purchase. This is valuable because it allows you to compare the "thing" you want to purchase to the other "things" and "experiences" on your list.
For example, you may want to purchase the newest iPhone. After adding the iPhone to your "presents" list, your thought process might be that your current iPhone works well, has the features you need, and you would rather take that $1,000 and plan a weekend trip with your best friend.
Step 4:
For the times of the year when we receive presents, such as birthdays and holidays, I would recommend listing a gift associated with each experience. This will help your friends and family know what gifts are the most meaningful.
Below are some ideas:
Going to the movies - Purchase a gift certificate to the local movie theatre or buy an annual subscription for a "Move Pass".
Going to museums - Purchase an annual museum membership.
Taking a writing class - Pay for your registration to a class you want to attend.
Painting / Pottery / Art - Pay for your registration to a class you want to attend.
Playing an instrument - Purchase lessons with an instructor you like.
Trying new restaurants - Plan a monthly dinner at a new restaurant and pay for your dinner or split it.
Eating at your favorite restaurant - Purchase a gift certificate.
Hosting dinner with friends - Order in and pay for dinner or coordinate a potluck.
Weekend Getaway - Plan a weekend getaway for you to enjoy together and split the costs.
Visiting an out-of-town friend - Pay for your airfare to visit or split the cost.
Going abroad - Pay for the hotel, your airfare, or an excursion while you are away.
It's important to note that there is value in planning the experiences. These don't have to be expensive. Having a friend plan a weekend trip, so that all you have to do is show up and split the cost, may be one of the best presents you get all year.
An added bonus to purchasing experiences over things is that it adds less clutter to your life. This is especially true with kids. So, if your parents keep purchasing toys for your kids that drive you nuts, cost you hours a week to clean up, and take up more space than you like, give the grandparents a list of experiences they can purchase for the grandkids and be sure to share pics and videos of all the joy they are experiencing thanks to their gift. Or, send your kids WITH the grandparents and take an afternoon to yourself!
What experiences do you value the most?
Happy Spaces’ Tips & Tricks
Keep a Google Doc. I once had a friend tell me we are thankful to those who create registries for their upcoming wedding or new baby, but we don’t encourage a “registry” for birthdays or other gift-giving events - like buying a house! This has always stuck with me. So, create one. Then, when a friend asks what you’d like for your upcoming birthday, you can refer to your list and/or send a link.
Ready to Get Started?
If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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The Secret to Wealth and Happiness
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PROJECT OF THE WEEK
The Secret to Wealth and Happiness
When you ask people about their dreams and goals, they usually fall into one or two categories. They either want to be wealthy or they want to be happy. Sometimes, they want both!
Working in the productivity field, I have the opportunity to support clients in reaching their goals. All goals.
I can support clients in being more effective at their job, which often leads to more money or a promotion.
I can support clients in finishing the important items on their to-do list and making time for what matters most.
I am lucky to work with clients that appreciate what I do and let me know the value of my work.
AND
I have also learned that earning more money or getting that next big promotion, will not make you feel wealthy.
Checking off items on your to-do list and going through the motions of what's important, will not make you feel happy.
The secret to feeling wealthy is FEELING LIKE YOU HAVE ENOUGH.
The secret to feeling happy is FEELING LIKE YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Simple, yet SO hard!
Getting Started
Our brains are smart. They protect us by using trusted pre-wired routes to help us make decisions, react to stimuli, and help us navigate the day-to-day.
People who have a growth mindset believe that even if they struggle with certain skills, their abilities aren’t set in stone. So, why not apply that here?
If feeling wealthy is as simple as feeling like you have enough maybe the first step is to take stock (no pun intended!) in who and what make you feel wealthy. Just last week, we talked about The Science of Gratitude.
I once saw a meme on Instagram that said something along the lines of "what if you woke up tomorrow and you only had what you said you were grateful for yesterday? Think about that for a second. A warm home. Your kids. Food in the refrigerator. A job you love. All of the things add to wealth.
I’m sure there are times where many of us don’t believe we are enough. We could be a better employee or friend or parent. But, by who’s standards are we measuring? We’ve asked the question: Can Money Buy Happiness? If the secret to feeling happy is to feel like we are enough, aren’t those same things and people we’re thankful for probably also thankful for us? I know for certain, my foster daughters, siblings, home, and niece bring me wealth far beyond dollars and cents. The best part, they bring me happiness, too.
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If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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PROJECT OF THE WEEK
The Science of Gratitude
Why does practicing gratitude matter?
There is growing scientific evidence that the practice of gratitude is what builds a "happier life". While most achievements and accomplishments may bring short-term improvements to one's mood, these improvements don't last. We quickly return to our "status quo".
Gratitude is one way to build a measurably happier life.
Below are some of the benefits of building a gratitude practice:
Benefits of Gratitude
More satisfaction with life
Builds resilience
Lowers stress
Less likely to experience burnout
Strengthens relationships
Better sleep
Better physical health
What does an effective gratitude practice look like?
Unfortunately, making a list of things you are grateful for does not seem to be that effective.
Your gratitude practice needs to be grounded in recalling a story about an experience you are grateful for, a time you received genuine gratitude from someone else, or a time you observed someone else receiving genuine thanks.
“Enjoy the little things. For one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”
- Robert Brault
Getting Started
Where do I start?
Your gratitude practice needs to be grounded in a narrative that is meaningful to you.
"My gratitude practice is founded on me receiving genuine thanks."
"My gratitude practice is founded on me observing someone else receiving genuine thanks."
Think about an experience where you received genuine thanks or you observed someone else receiving genuine thanks.
Write down a few bullet points reminding you of your narrative about why gratitude is meaningful to you and how this experience impacted you.
What state of mind were you in before you received the gratitude?
What state of mind were you in after you received the gratitude?
Read what you wrote and spend one to three minutes thinking about it.
It is recommended that you complete this gratitude exercise at least three times a week.
How to make gratitude a habit:
Pick what time of day and days of the week you think will work best for you.
While the science shows that you only need to practice gratitude three days a week, you may have a much easier time being consistent if you do this habit daily or on weekdays.
Is there another current habit that you already perform at the time you picked, that you can stack your gratitude practice on top of?
It could be with your morning coffee, after you brush your teeth in the evening, or right when you get into bed at night.
Think about how you are going to remember to practice gratitude as you start to implement this new habit.
Maybe you want to leave your gratitude journal next to the coffee pot or on your bed?
You may also want to set an alarm as a reminder.
The good news is, if your goal is to practice gratitude daily, and you are successful daily-ish (3 days a week) you should experience the benefits.
Additional Resources
I highly recommend the Podcast episode, “The Science of Gratitude & How to Build a Gratitude Practice” by the Huberman Lab Podcast (Episode 47).
Here is a link if you would prefer to watch it.
Ready to Get Started?
If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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Don't Let Your Brain Outsmart You
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PROJECT OF THE WEEK
Don't Let Your Brain Outsmart You!
Let's be real! We all procrastinate. Yes, even me.
Sometimes we procrastinate because the task is boring.
Sometimes we simply don't know where to start and we feel overwhelmed.
Regardless of the reasoning, procrastination often leads to increased stress and anxiety.
So why do we do it?
Our brains are smart. They are trying to protect us. It's always easier to FEEL the here and now, verse the someday or one day.
What is your brain's go to form of procrastination?
I know mine is WORK. It's my brains way of tricking me into thinking I am doing something that is productive and helpful.
You may be thinking, what's so bad about getting work done?
Usually the WORK my brain chooses are things that have to happen, but are NOT IMPORTANT in the big scheme of things. Maybe it's paying a bill or checking my email or taking care of some other simple task on the to do list.
While I suppose it's better to be doing something than nothing, it's definitely not helping me accomplish what's important.
Getting Started
I would recommend taking a few moments to consider what forms of procrastination are your go to?
If you can recognize it, while it's happening, you can make a new plan.
If you are procrastinating because the project is boring, figure out a way to make it more interesting.
If you hate gathering your tax paperwork, can you invite your best friend over to hang out while you do it and then treat them to dinner after?
If you don't know where to start, set some time aside to make a list of all the steps you can think of. Make sure each step is a single action. This may be enough. However, if it's not, you will be able to clearly see where you are stuck and can add the action of who to reach out to, so that you have the information you need to move forward.
If you’ve made your list and truly don’t know where to start, pick one of the tasks on your list. Just start. Once the momentum is going, you may find that the rest just naturally flows.
The more we recognize that our brains really are smart, the better chance we have to be our best selves.
Ready to Get Started?
If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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When You Can't Get Started
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PROJECT OF THE WEEK
When You Can't Get Started
Do you ever have a day where you feel like you just can't get started?
I don't mean started on a big project or started on something important. I mean started on ANYTHING!
This happened to me this week.
I didn't have any client calls until the afternoon, but I had a lot on my plate.
I considered taking the morning off, but without even looking at my calendar, I knew if I did that, it would not be possible to get everything done this week that NEEDED to be done. This includes things for my business and my life. Ever tried feeding two kids without a trip to the grocery store? It gets creative…and scary!
Falling behind on what NEEDS to get done, never makes me feel better.
Getting Started
Rather than fell behind, I did what I usually do when I am feeling this way.
I grabbed my laptop and my water bottle. I sat in my favorite comfy chair with a comfy blanket and I committed to clearing out all new emails.
Please note: I didn’t respond to any emails. I simply just cleared them out and added them to the appropriate to-do lists and folders.
If this was all I had accomplished, it was much better than getting nothing done.
And this gave me the opportunity to know exactly what was on my plate, instead of letting my brain make things up.
As often happens, once this was complete, I was ready to move on to other simple yet required to-do items.
It wasn't my most productive day AND it allowed me not to fall behind and add to my stress level.
I realized, when I feel like I can't get started, I find a place that is cozy and start small. Then see what happens.
Where is your cozy place?
What is something small that always makes you feel less overwhelmed?
We'd love to hear!
Ready to Get Started?
If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.
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All or Nothing?
Sometimes, all or nothing IS the best choice.
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PROJECT OF THE WEEK
As a perfectionist, I have focused a lot of energy and effort on changing how I work.
My default has always been locked into go mode. I tend to start a project and will not stop until it's done.
Often, this means means one of two things happens. Either, I work past the point of being efficient or I procrastinate getting started because I know that I do not have the time to finish the project the way that I would want it to be finished.
For me, learning how to work in shorter spurts has been a game changer.
It doesn’t have to be an all or nothing mentality.
Getting Started
Last week, we discussed the concept of progress over perfection. The idea of just starting with small bite-sized pieces of work and watch as progress is made. The idea of all or nothing coincides nicely with the progress over perfection concept.
First, you have to know yourself, your habits, and your personality to determine what in your life can be all or nothing. Then, it’s important to know that you can change habits and strategies as you learn and grow.
But, realistically, it's always easier to change our environment than to change ourselves.
When working with clients, we often make a plan together. The plan includes what tasks will be completed and when. The plan is realistic and leaves open time to accommodate the unexpected.
However, having a great plan will only get you so far. It will ultimately be up to you to complete the tasks and manage your time.
I have many conversations with clients about the barriers to completely a well-conceived (if I do say so myself!) plan. What’s getting in the way? Where can we pivot? And, what can we ultimately change to make our well-conceived plan achievable?
The number one reason why clients aren’t able to work their plan consistently? They take a planned break and choose to participate in an activity that is REALLY hard to stop.
The opposite is also true. The client completes all their tasks for that portion of the plan and then treats themself to an activity that causes them to stay up way too late and then be unproductive the next day.
Here’s where all or nothing applies.
A client recently told me they only used to play video games on the weekends. Now, they are completing a handful of tasks to make their lives easier day to day and celebrating by playing video games during the week. Their love of video games exceeds their love of sleep and this client often finds himself up until 2:00AM. This means he will sometimes oversleep, miss his morning class(es) and ultimately be behind in work. He’ll play catchup and then reward himself with more video games. The cycle continues.
Another client told me that their planned 15 minute break, turned into a TikTok marathon that lasted over an hour. She lost time and had to cancel working on her tasks for the day in order to prioritize a more important work project.
While there are may strategies to "manage" your time better and "manage" your devices better, those are NOT my go to strategies.
Instead, I prefer the all or nothing approach.
If you can't go on TikTok or YouTube for less than 1 hour, it's not an activity to do on a break.
If you can't stop playing video games with your friends at a reasonable hour, it's not a smart idea for weeknights.
Know yourself better.
Sometimes it's smarter to stop all together than try to moderate.
Ready to Get Started?
If you feel excited about implementing this strategy and want some additional accountability and support to get started, the It’s All in the Planning Starter Pak was designed for you!
A Note from Happy Spaces
The goal is to add value to your life. If you think this project will add value:
Estimate how long you think it will take. I would recommend doubling the time you estimate.
Look at your calendar over the next week and pick a date and time to get started.
Make an appointment on your calendar for the estimated time.
If you estimate that completing this project will take longer than one hour, I recommend doing it over multiple days. This will support you in getting started!
Prior to starting this project, take a few minutes to make a step-by-step list of EVERY action you need to take to complete this project.
It's not all or nothing. You can choose to implement only the parts of this project that add value to your life.
An Accountability Partner can be a great support in following through on your goals and commitments.
We understand how challenging it can be to implement new habits and systems. For additional support please go to HappySpacesBySarah.com.
Creating a life you don't need a vacation from! ®
Sincerely,
Sarah Weingarten
Meet Sarah
Growing up as the oldest of nine siblings in Upstate New York, I learned to use organization to create sanity among the chaos. Today, I work together with individuals, families, and small businesses to create habits, systems, and spaces that support their needs, goals, and dreams. Clients often refer to our work together as "life-changing" and "better than decades of therapy". What I love most about my work is the lasting impact it has on real people's lives. Nothing makes me happier than hearing the many success stories of clients I have worked with.